Facade – Sorry about the sound quality of my video.

I recently went to an event at Paramount Studios.  We walked down streets made to look like NYC or a city street.  At first glance, they look like buildings and you could walk right into someone’s home.  Once you ascend the steps, you can only go in a few feet and then have to turn back around.  They are facades only.  It made me think about relationships and how people can put on a fake façade.  This often happens at the beginning of any relationship.  People want to make a good first impression.  It may take a few dates before you see the “real” person, warts and all.

Let’s face it, none of us is perfect.  Some people are very good at hiding who they really are.  Many abusive relationships start this way.  People are manipulated into believing that the poor behavior of the abuser is the fault of the victim.  They can be very effective at this.  If you suspect you are in this type of relationship, seek help to get out.  It is not up to you to “fix” them and don’t believe them if they try to tell you that they are the only one who would ever love you. 

Learning to accept someone for their faults can lead to a deeper and more meaningful connection.  No bond is going to be perfect.  There are going to be rocky times.  Learning to manage through these together can bring you even closer.  You have a shared experience.  Look for the signs of an abusive relationship.  I was in an abusive relationship for years.  I kept thinking things were going to change and get better.  They never did.  There are multiple ways of be abused.  Physical, mental, emotional and so on.  Wasn’t it Albert Einstein that said, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.”

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Published by kimcubittconsulting

I am a Certified Relationship and Career Coach, retired Public School Teacher and work as an Adjunct Communications College Professor.

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