Reflecting on what we have done and said is an important part of our personal growth and development as people. We all have things to improve on. If we are not growing, then we are dying. Think about your relationships and if you are not happy with them, “reflect” on what you are saying or doing OR what you are NOT saying or doing that is preventing you from the desired results. You can’t change what others do, only how you act and react.
So, you looked in the mirror. Pretend you don’t like how direct and even abrupt you can be. Start thinking before you speak and soften your approach. You may even have to look in the mirror and practice saying things aloud. For example, do you judge people too quickly? Stop to think about whether your personal experiences and opinions are taking over. Take time to get to know someone and be aware of how your “lenses” can color your views. Are you a “yes” person? Learn to say ‘no’ and not feel guilty for it. I am giving you permission, if you need it, to say ‘no’. If you are constantly saying ‘yes’ to everyone, you won’t have enough energy for yourself. Are you speaking up enough? Learn to be more assertive. Use a strong voice, give them eye contact and say what is on your mind. Step into your power with no fear!
Use affirmations to help you with your transformation. These are positive statements about what you want to happen. Looking at yourself in a mirror when you say them and speaking them aloud are ways to imprint these messages in your brain and help you to make the choices that will bring the desired outcome. Knowing yourself first is the beginning of the greatest love and relationship you will ever have. That is the one with yourself. You are amazing!